You Are Not Alone

A few weeks ago, my oldest daughter turned 18.  This is an exciting time in her life as she finishes high school and  prepares for college.  My wife and I are very proud of the woman that she has become; however, her outlook wasn’t always so rosy.  18 years ago, my daughter was in the hospital fighting for her life.  She was born very premature (1 lb. 6 oz.) and the doctors weren’t sure that she was going to make it.

The author and his daughter in the NICU

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A Gift from God

A Dad’s Daily Word

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.  Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth.  Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!  He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.

Psalm 127:3-5

There are many ways to become a father.  Some come by it naturally, while others become fathers through foster care or adoption.  In my case, I became a father naturally and through the miracle of adoption.   Continue reading “A Gift from God”

Don’t Feel Sorry for Me

This article originally appeared in The Good Men Project on May 16, 2017.

I recently had a conversation with someone and the subject naturally turned to our children.  When I said that I had one child with special needs and two other children, whom we adopted from another country, who needed extra time and attention to catch up on basic educational skills, his first words were “I feel so sorry for you.”  Why I said.  “Because of your poor luck,” he replied.  I told him the same thing that I am telling you.  Don’t feel sorry for me, my kids are doing just fine.   Continue reading “Don’t Feel Sorry for Me”

A Lesson in Parent Leadership: Answering the Call

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I recently read an article titled “I Didn’t Want To Be A Mom, But I Had Kids Anyway” about a mom who initially was hesitant about becoming a parent but after having difficulty conceiving, going through postpartum depression, and the normal trials of motherhood, now has a level of love for her children that she didn’t think was possible.  How did she get to that point?  Simply, she answered the call. Continue reading “A Lesson in Parent Leadership: Answering the Call”

Fathers are Critical to a Child’s Education

Four benefits of being actively involved in your child’s education.

This article was originally published in The Good Men Project on April 29, 2017.

I have always been involved in my children’s education.  Frankly, I don’t know any other way.  Growing up, my parents always stressed the value of an education and were always active in my schools.    Because of work responsibilities, they may not have been the class parent, but they made sure that they kept in contact with my teachers to make sure that I was always doing my “job.”  To them, a good education was the key to a better life.  At the time, I thought my parents were overbearing and like most children, sometimes I would rebel.  Later, after finishing college and beginning a career of my own, I saw the wisdom of their words.  As a black man, I would have few career options without an education.  My education allowed me to have career choices that have had a huge impact on my economic well-being. Continue reading “Fathers are Critical to a Child’s Education”